Many times over the years students in my private lessons have expressed confusion over the verb demander, which means “to ask for” and “to ask to”. Specifically, the grammatical structures for this verb can be tricky, which I’ll explain with as few words as possible in today’s lesson. Keep reading.
demander
to ask for, to ask to
Demander – to ask in French
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Word origin
Demander (to ask) in French comes from the Latin verb demandare (to entrust).
Present tense conjugation
Demander is a regular ER verb. This means that its endings are the same as all other regular ER verbs when conjugated in the present tense.
Je demande I ask
Tu demandes You ask (singular, informal)
Il, elle demande He, she asks
Nous demandons We ask
Vous demandez You ask (plural, formal)
Ils, elles demandent They ask
Example sentences
This first example sentence uses the structure: demander + thing + à + person; to ask somebody for something. Unlike English, the word order is flipped. The thing you’re asking for comes first then add the person.
Je demande un livre à ma fille.
I ask my daughter for a book.
This second example sentence uses the structure: demander à + person + de + take action (verb); to ask somebody to do something. For this stucture, the word order is the same as English.
Je demande à mon mari de mettre la table.
I ask my husband to set the table.
In French, the verb demander can also be followed by a noun (or direct object). To ask for + blank. To ask for the time, for example, is demander l’heure. This example sentence uses the word chemin, which can translate to path, way and road.
Je suis perdu. Je dois demander le chemin.
I’m lost. I have to ask the way.
Se demander – to wonder
As reflexive verb, se demander means “to wonder”. Hence, je me demande translates literally to “I ask myself”.
Je me demande pourquoi le français est tellement difficile.
I wonder why French is so difficult.